"I've had men message me and ask to feed me," says Laura Delarato, a sex-educator and branded video producer at . It's on regular sites like Ok Cupid and Tinder." According to Delarato, if you're a plus-size woman on a dating app, you should expect your body to be "the forefront of the conversation."The easy (and typical) explanation for this is that swipe-based dating apps have made us more shallow.
"These cultural ideas filter into our day-to-day interactions," Escobar says.
The League, an "elite" dating app with a screening process that includes a review of your Linked In profile, recently rolled out Monochrome View, which makes the first photo on profiles black-and-white by default.
"We conducted research [internally] that found that there was an increased time spent in evaluating potential profiles that were in monochrome," says Meredith Davis, head of communications for The League.
"In terms of finding love, you think about romantic comedies and advertisements depicting romance, and it's almost always about a thin woman.
We have this really narrow definition about who is valuable, and that rarely includes women at all, let alone women of color and women who are plus."When plus-size women are represented, they're not the main characters.